Stereotype Slayer #15: Virgins Dislike "Sexy Stuff"

I remember when an R&B CD fell out of my backpack one day in professional school.  By the shocked looks on the guys' faces, you would have thought the world had just been pronounced square.

My male friends were stunned that I, little miss virgin, listened to what they called "porn music."  Said "porn music" included songs like Freak Me, Bump 'N Grind, Stroke You Up, I'll Make Love to You, etc.

Shocked Guys: "You've got porn music!"

Me, blushing a little: "What's the big deal? It's R&B, it's sexy...what of it?"

Guys, eyes popping: "It just doesn't make sense."

Later, one guy told me--and a fellow virgin friend--that virgins "aren't supposed to like sexy stuff."

Cue mega eye rolling.

Virgins most certainly fall under such labels as pure, angelic, sweet, and innocent. I'm not arguing these labels, but there is so much more to a virgin than being sweet and innocent.

Here's a little list of some of the "sexy stuff" virgins are not supposed to like:

Sexy music--We don't cover our ears or turn the station...we turn it up, sing along, and fantasize. We then store our fantasies in a little mind vault and wait for the special him to unlock it.

Colorful undies--Virgins are believed to only wear single-style, white undies.  Personally, I prefer color...and variation.  That's all I'm sayin'.

Sexy movies/television shows, like True Blood--According to a number of men, virgins prefer PG films to R rated movies (no joke). Sigh. We don't cover our eyes during a love scene...we take mental notes. 

Bottom Line: Sex and sexy are two different concepts. Sexy is a state of mind. You don't have to have sex to like sexy things.  A virgin's mind is like the ocean--15% of which you may know, but the rest...the rest is a mystery waiting to be discovered.

Stereotype #15: SLAYED.

Stereotype Slayer #14: Virgins Will Purposely Hold Back

Since I'm still in post-Mavs championship euphoria, I feel the need for some simple stereotype slayer action. However, I must say, I've made some rather startling discoveries during the course of this championship run regarding sports and hormones...another post for another day.

Stereotype: "Virgins will purposely hold back because they've been used to not letting go sexually."

This one will be very short and sweet.

If anything, when a virgin is unleashed for the first time...holding back will be the LAST thing on her mind, I assure you.

Shyness and nervousness aside...

...Darlin', when I decide to save a horse and ride a cowboy...it's on.

Stereotype #14: SLAYED (with ease).

Virgin: Code Name For Alien.

So, according to Friend, virgins are no different than aliens. You read right. 

Friend: "You know, virgins, especially older ones, are a lot like aliens."

Me: "How do you figure?"

Friend: "Well, they're rarely seen...

Me: "Actually, they're seen everyday. They're not hiding in spaceships, viewing human life from afar. It's just that most people don't know to scream, 'Hey, look, there's a virgin! Run for your lives!'"

Friend, chuckling: "That blows the whole visual I had involving virgins and little green aliens."

Me, smiling, while shaking head: "You're sick, and I don't want to know."

Friend: "Anyway, okay, let me modify things: virgins could be like the aliens on V--pretty damn hot, but scaly creatures underneath."

Me: "Yeah, that's just fantastic. Exactly what virgins need--the idea that we hide scales and gooey grossness under our flesh. Really, just super. --brief pause-- E.T. phone home." (said in my best E.T. voice).

Friend, laughing: "Hey, maybe the government will want to take virgins in for scientific study!"

Me: "It's called a hymen. Hardly a scientific breakthrough."

And so ended the whole virgins-aliens comparison. Good times. Actually, it was pretty dang funny.

Oh, and just one more thing....

Be Good.

Hmm.  I'm hungry.  Think I'll grab some Reese's Pieces and daydream about how exciting Independence Day will be this year.

Innocent Isn't For Over 30

Recently, while watching one of those quasi-corny, yet strangely addicting Syfy super-storm-destroys-the-world movies, I thought I recognized one of the actresses from an old show I used to watch when I was younger. Over to IMDb I surfed, only to find that she wasn't the same actress. However, I discovered something much more interesting.

The actress is set to star in an upcoming film called, Scents and Sensibility. There is very little information on the film, but it seems to be a twist on the Jane Austen classic, Sense and Sensibility.  While glancing over the page, I spotted the following on a message board: "Actresses are too old."

Upon clicking the message, I was astonished to read a slight rant on casting actresses born in '78 and '80 to portray Jane Austen's young, virginal heroines. Simply put, if you are a woman over 30, you cannot possibly pass as a virgin, much less a young one. I believe the individual used the word "ridiculous" to describe such casting. 

As far as playing a youthful character, well, many women (and men) 30+ can pass for much younger.

Certainly, he/she is entitled to feel the way they do. There is no denying that an over 30 virgin in today's society is a scarce finding. Still, I tend to believe that innocence isn't defined by virgins, nor is it reserved for the under 30 crowd.  While virgins, like lambs or angels, are symbols of innocence, it's an individual's heart and soul that define it.

Maybe he/she has never met one of those "ridiculous," scarce oddities...

...um, yeah, hiya!  How ya doin'? Ridiculous scarce oddity here, dang glad to meet ya!

Stereotype Slayer #13: Virgins Set Women Back

I cannot tell you how badly it chaps me when I hear a fellow woman accuse me of setting the Women's Movement back "one hundred years" simply because of my decision to wait for love. 

Their argument is as follows: For years, women were expected to be virgins come their wedding night.  If they were not, they were condemned, ridiculed, and mistreated.  Thus, women were sexually repressed by men.  Having gained sexual freedom, women finally freed themselves from the restraints men and society once placed upon them. Today, any woman who chooses to be a virgin is, in effect, reimposing past sexual restraints on all women. 

Compelling argument, is it not?  However, I must counter. 

First, and foremost, I have never preached that this decision is for everyone, nor will I ever do so.  I'm simply trying to show that this IS an option and hopefully convey the fact that not all virgins fit the ever-so-popular virginal stereotype(s).

Second, while in school, girls would tell me they felt as though their virginity was something they HAD to lose in order to "get" or "keep" a guy's interest; they told me they didn't feel like they had a choice.  This is something I have heard in various forms all my life--even into my 30s--and most, if not all, admitted regret for being pressured by a guy that it ultimately did not work out with. 

Perhaps it's just me, but I have to wonder how standing my ground in what I believe in could possibly set women back. If anything, isn't it showing women that they have CHOICES? Does it not help women understand that they don't have to "give it up" simply because a guy pressures them? That they can wait for when it's right and wait for the right man?

Please, tell me what is so wrong with showing strength.  Yes, maybe it is old-fashioned in theory, but in the heart, mind, and soul, this choice is about as independent as you are going to find.

Lastly, just in case you were curious, allow me to list a few famous women rumored to have been virgins until very late in life, until their wedding night, or upon their death:

*Queen Elizabeth I, "The Virgin Queen"

*Jane Austen, author of Pride & Prejudice, Sense & Sensibility, etc.

*Julia Child, virgin until she married in her 30s

I'm going to go out on a limb, here, and say that none of these women can be accused of setting women back.

Done and dusted.

Stereotype #13: SLAYED.

Stereotype Slayer #12: Virgins Are Sheltered

Many people believe virgins live sheltered lives, never experiencing anything truly emotional. After all, if we don't have sex, we must not be wise to the ways of the world, right? I've heard it many times: "You've never had your heart broken by a boyfriend. When it happens, then you will understand. Just wait."

Maybe I've never had my heart smashed into a million pieces by a man, but it has been wounded; I have felt the cruel sting of disappointment.

There are other circumstances in life that can break a heart, like seeing your healthy-as-a-horse father forced to suddenly fight for his life. Believe me, my heart has been broken.

Life alone has a way of un-sheltering the sheltered.

I've never had my heart broken by a man, and I openly admit to keeping the "heart card" close to the vest; I do not, and will not, hand it over easily. I suppose, in a way, I keep my heart sheltered, hoping never to experience love-induced heartbreak.  Should it happen, I will pick myself up and keep moving forward because that's what you do...that's what it means to be human--you feel, you live, you bend, you break, you rise up, and you grow stronger. 

When you think about it, we humans--virgins and non-virgins alike--really are superheroes...because there's no such thing as living a sheltered life. 

Stereotype #12--SLAYED.

Stereotype Slayer #11: Virgins Are Bookworms

Um, well, this one is....TRUE! I was, am, and will always be a bookworm. Now, I don't particularly care for the term "bookworm." I mean, I'm not a bug or a bore (at least, I don't think I am...never been called annoying, like a fly, or boring or dull like a stereotypical book nerd).

Here's what: I love to read. I love books. I love writing. Not thinking this is something specific to virgins, but, alas, we get stamped with the "bookworm" label every time, which usually equates to one big yawn.

Yes, I was a total Hermione in school. Remember the star chart (or equivalent) when you were in kindergarten or preschool? You know, where Teacher would put a gold, silver, red, or green star sticker next to your name? Well, my Hermione-like behavior started the moment I saw a red star next to my name. Blasphemy! Where's my dang gold star?! Evil teacher-lady! From that second, I grew obsessed with getting gold stars, then check-pluses, then check-check-plus-pluses, then, eventually, A's.

I'm not ashamed of working hard in school. I had a very specific goal, which required a whole lot of schooling, exams, etc. And you know what? I did it. I worked hard, fought through the peer pressure, shed countless tears, and achieved my goal. It was a lonely, stressful road, I can tell you that; my friends always referred to me as "so disciplined," and some guys would try and sweet-talk me into helping them with their studies.

I never did the whole mega-dork-school-kid thing, but I was a worker...and I still am.  If that makes me a bookworm or book nerd, so be it. I'll proudly wear that badge, as I'm sure many, many non-virgins will as well. 

Stereotype #11: PROUDLY AFFIRMED

Stereotype #10: Virgins Make Bad Girlfriends

This is one of my absolute favorite stereotypes. (Kindly note the sarcasm)

There are two basic tiers to this theory:

Tier One: Immaturity

This perplexing little gem of a stereotype-tier originates from "man's belief" (sources remain unnamed...Kyle The Prick) that virgins have less relationship experience to draw from since they don't "give it up."  Therefore, virgins are increasingly unable to maturely handle common relationship issues/roadblocks. Hence, we are apparently decidedly less mature than girls who have had numerous...how shall I put this...bone.

**It should be duly noted that Kyle's ex-girlfriend handled their break-up like a truly mature, experienced woman...wonder if he's gotten around to repainting his car.

Fact: Because many virgins intend to remain pure, for want of a better word, until they find love and/or marriage, it is likely fewer men are willing to give it a go with us. This, admittedly, results in less relationship experience. Does that mean we are ill-equipped to handle adversity in a relationship? Absolutely not.

Let me tell you, contrary to semi-popular opinion, it takes an enormous amount of strength, energy, self-preservation, and just plain thick skin to walk down the virgin road. That, my dear naysayers, is called maturity...and it starts pretty early, especially considering how young  people are having sex these days.

You don't walk the virgin road and wear a badge of giggling, idiotic, school-girl. You learn very early to hold your head high, no matter how many times someone tries to punch you in the stomach...and they will...and it hurts. You grow from the hurt...you gain strength...you mature.

By my senior year in high school, girls were coming to me for all sorts of advice, despite the fact I hadn't "been there, done that." I saw things very clearly with regard to other people's relationships.  Perhaps it's a consolation prize of having to surviving all that comes with the "virgin" label.

Tier Two: No Sex (Duh!)

Well, who would guess this one, right? Eventually, according to some, men will grow tired of said virgin because...drum roll, please...they aren't getting laid! Just kick me in the gut and color me happy! I could never have guessed this one is a zillion years! Ugh.  (Again, note sarcasm)

Fact: Some men will cut and run after so much time. Others will quite literally leave rubber (aw, heck, pun intended...why not?) to get away from a virgin the second he finds out the truth. These men are NOT worth your time or tears.

Then there are those who remain by your side....for YOU...for who YOU are as a person. If a man can see a future with YOU, it shouldn't matter if you are a virgin or if you have slept with over half the county. It's about the heart...it's about love. 

Bottom line: There is a lot more to a relationship than sex. Oh, it's important, don't get me wrong, but it's not everything. Virgins just start from the bottom and work up--we delicately, gently, caress each relationship block, softly putting them together to build the rock hard foundation we need before we become one with  our bodies. Just consider it a nice long period of constant, non-stop foreplay for the soul, mind, and body. 

Stereotype #10: SLAYED.

Stereotype #9: Virgins Wear Long Skirts & Turtlenecks

Since it has been a pretty daunting week, I figured we'd have a little fun with one of the more amusing stereotypes I've come across.

"Virgins wear long skirts and turtlenecks."

Sigh. Another "virgins lack a fashion sense" stereotype. Virgins are typically portrayed in film as these dorky, pathetic, scholarly types, who all seem to dress the same way: overalls or long skirts, high-neck blouses or flannels, glasses, a pencil behind the ear, and countless library books weighing down their twiggy arms.  It's really frustrating.

First, turtlenecks can be sexy, so let's not knock the turtleneck. Not all of them are cut boxy; not all of them transform you into a giraffe.

Personally, I don't like long skirts--not my style--but there's nothing wrong with them. Aside from a long, flowing sarong that I've tied around my bathing suit for an evening walk on the beach, I've never worn a long skirt.

Glasses can be sexy. I'm not sure why this is always made to be the mark of a dork...or worse yet, a dorky virgin.

Bottom line is this: Many virgins have evolved past the fashion stereotypes. You likely won't be able to recognize a virgin just by looking. We aren't afraid to wear v-necks or fitted jeans. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've always believed "sexy" follows class, elegance, and comfort more so than it follows the "show it all" outfits. Subtle sexy versus outright sexy. My mama always said to leave a little to the imagination, and she's never wrong (don't tell her I said that). :)

You want more proof that we've evolved past these ridiculous fashion stereotypes? Take a look at both current and former celebrity virgins--singers, actresses, models, etc. Now, I ask you, do any of them fit the stereotypical virgin mold? I don't think so.

I so hope this made sense--I'm still needing to catch up on some sleep from the week that has royally kicked my butt senseless.

Stereotype #9-SLAYED.

P.S. There's nothing wrong with being a dork...besides, I think there's a little dork that resides in all of us anyway.

Stereoype #8: Virgins Are Like Vampires.

Why is this a stereotype?  It's Tuesday. We didn't have True Blood.

This isn't the first time I've heard of virgins compared to supernatural beings.  The vampire comparison, however, is a first.

Highly Intelligent Studious Male: "I've been thinking..."

Me: "Uh-Oh.  Always dangerous, go on..."

Studious Male, grinning: "Virgins are kind-of a rare phenomenon...one that is talked of, but rarely seen. Supernatural, you know? Like a myth."

Me: "Like a Greek goddess!"

Studious Male: "Yeah...or a vampire."

Me: "A vampire?

Studious Male: "Why not?  Think about it--vampires are naturally sensual; they have amazing strength; they're alluring, yet a mystery.  Virgins aren't all that different.  They're innocently sexy, their inner strength is unparalleled, and they are, undoubtedly, a mystery."

So, while watching Being Human on BBC America (it's a drama/mystery about a vampire, ghost, and werewolf trying to live normal lives in a not-so-normal way), I realized Studious Male may have a bizarre point. In the show, the vampire believes in abstaining from drinking blood. It suddenly dawned on me: some vampires (like in Being Human or even Twilight) actually abstain (heck, Edward Cullen abstains from sex, too).

Granted, it's all a bit of a stretch, not to mention a little dark, but it's kind-of fun to think about. Let's face it, with all the negative stereotypes virgins have to deal with, isn't it nice to have one that we can have a little fun with and actually joke about?

Stereotype #8: SLAYED? STAKED? Nah, think I'll let this one stand...

Stereotype #7: Virgins Are Boring

Apparently, not having sex makes virgins a real yawn. (See The Boring Bun for a related stereotype...it's one of the more amusing stereotypes I've heard).

Here's what my undercover virgin conversations uncovered on the "boring" theory--these are different Alpha Males from the last group:

Alpha Male #1: "I don't know, I just think virgins would be really boring."

Me: "Why? Just because you're probably not going to have sex with her?"

Alpha Male #1: "See, I don't know...it just seems like they would be less fun because they don't have sex. It's like they wouldn't know how to let their hair down and stuff."

Alpha Male #2: "I have the most fun with virgins, actually."

Alpha Male #1: "Really!?"

Me: "Why do you think you have so much fun with virgins?"

Alpha Male #2: "They're just chill.  You know? I don't have to play the game. I don't have to wonder how I'm going to get them into bed or how I'm going to make my escape the next morning. I feel more like me when I'm around a virgin...not that that happens a lot.  There aren't too many, at least not that I've come across."

Alpha Male #1: "I've never really known a virgin, so my opinion is more of an assumption."

Me: "You mean a judgment.  An unfair one at that."

Alpha Male #1: Laughing, "Do you have to bust my balls?"

Me: Smiling, "Of course!"

Alpha Male #1: "Okay, maybe I'm being a shallow a@&."

Conclusion: Thankfully, I've never been called boring.  I suppose I'm probably a yawn to some people--no one is going to be everyone's cup o' tea, after all.

Just because a virgin is a virgin and has not engaged in sexual activity, doesn't mean she/he is boring.  Frankly, it just means we've had more time to fantasize...to cook up some seriously enticing nights...to build up a virtual library of romantic fun.  Virgins are probably some of the least boring people you are ever going to meet...if you give us a chance.

Stereotype #7: SLAYED.

Stereotype #6: Virgins Are Stuck-Up.

Snob.  Pretentious. Better-than-thou.  "Virgins are kinda stuck-up." This one has some staying power among both men and women.

It seems many people think virgins are these goody-goody types, who stick their noses up in the air at everybody else.  "Virgins think there is nothing better than their choice. Like it's the ONLY right choice in the world."

To me, this stereotype is akin to "virgins are judgmental." I've said it before, but it bears repeating: I live other people judging me, and it's an awful feeling.  I would never judge anyone else for their choices. Everyone's life is their own to live in a way that makes them happy. This path is a CHOICE, an option for men and women.

I should also add that most of these people have NEVER REALLY KNOWN A VIRGIN.

I've known a few virgins, and they are not even in the vicinity of "stuck-up," and none have ever said this path is the ONLY path to take.

Heck, I've known plenty of snobby women...ugh, they make me gag. Yeah, soooooo not like them.

I don't know what makes someone a snob, but it sure as heck isn't being a virgin.

Stereotype #6: SLAYED.

Stereotype #5: Virgins Are Desperate

In virtually the same breath as the "virgins are prudes" and "virgins are scared of sex" stereotypes, comes a chorus of "yeah, and virgins are desperate to get laid, too." Um, what? I had to ask these men to clarify, considering they just posited three stereotypes that have completely different meanings.

"Deep down, virgins just really want to get laid. They hate being different from everybody else. All you gotta do is tell her the right things and you're in," said Alpha Male One.

"Yeah, just throw out the 'I love you' crap a few times," offered Alpha Male Two.

"Don't forget the 'I'll wait for as long as it takes' s*&^," said Alpha Male Three, smirking, while downing a beer.

"Say that and you'll be getting it that night," croaked Alpha Male One to a roar of laughter.

While watching them laugh and clink beer bottles, I knew I had to ask the questions burning my mind.  "So, is it all about the conquest? Do you just want to nail a virgin? Are the bragging rights worth hurting an innocent girl?"

"Hell yeah, babe," said Alpha Male One. "What guy wouldn't want to tell his buddies how he took down the fortress, you know? And, yeah, the bragging rights are pretty damn massive."

The other Alpha Males concurred. 

"What about her, though?  She chose you...she put her trust in you.  What about her feelings, her heart?"

Silence. They just stared into their longnecks.

Here's what: Virgins aren't stupid. We know there are men who just want the conquest--those who will say anything to get the notch on their bedpost. Over the years, I've learned to smell B.S. from a mile away.  The key is to be very cautious and not get lost in the words.  You know what they say, actions speak louder than words.  If he's the wrong guy, there will ALWAYS be red flags and you have to pay attention to them, no matter how much you may want to ignore them.

*Virgins aren't desperate, we're hopeful.*

Listening to these guys talk did challenge that hopeful feeling...until...

"I think something would change in me if a girl had trusted me like that.  Maybe she sees more in me...sees me better than anyone has before...maybe even more than I see in myself," whispered our quiet Alpha Male Four.

The hope floats once again! Sweet Alpha Male Four...too bad he married Not Nice Woman.

Stereotype #5--SLAYED.

Stereotype Slayer #4: Virgins Are Scared Of Sex

My undercover virgin notes reveal a pretty surprising stereotype this week. Numerous men have told me they believe the reason a woman chooses to stay a virgin has nothing to do with love or innocence, but with fear.  When I inquired further, they simply say, "Virgins are scared to have sex."

I had to think about this one for a minute. Am I scared? I mean, I'm definitely raring to go, but I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't nervous. Still, many of my sexually active friends over the years have told me they always get nervous making love with someone they truly care about. Besides, if I am truly terrified of sex, I wouldn't look forward to it so much, and I certainly wouldn't have racked up a ton of fantasies...but that's for another day.

I am scared of one thing: Getting my heart broken. Then again, who isn't afraid of having their heart ripped to shreds? 

Simply put, virgins aren't scared of sex.  We're just a happy-kind-of-nervous when it comes to being with the one we love, and that makes us no different than any other soul searching for its other half.

Stereotype #4--SLAYED.

Stereotype #3: Virgins Are Librarians, Wear Glasses, and Twist Their Hair in a Bun

No, I'm not joking.  A surprising number of men truly believe most virgins are librarians, who wear glasses and tie their hair up in a "boring bun." When I say I have heard it all as an undercover virgin, I truly mean, I have heard it ALL.

This virgin's take? I think it's the male libido subconsciously wanting to watch the straight-laced, good girl save a horse and ride a cowboy.

For the record, I'm not a librarian.  Although...I suppose I could role play one.  You know, I could dress up in a pencil skirt and crisp white blouse, tie my hair in a bun, stick a pencil behind my ear, and slip on some glasses. Then...let the games begin. Turn on a little Marvin Gaye, shake down the hair, unbutton the shirt, throw off the glasses, unzip the pencil skirt...you get the picture.

Now, I ask you, does that sound boring to you?

Stereotype #3--SLAYED...and then some.

Stereotype #2: Virgins are Judgmental

Ah, yes, the judgmental virgin. I can't tell you how often I have heard this during my undercover virgin investigations.  I find the judgmental stereotype is more prevalent among women than men...and it is one of the most hurtful.

So how are virgins judgmental? According to what I have heard, virgins look down upon those who have sex; they allegedly "shame" sexually active women.  When a friend of mine said precisely this, I asked her if I have ever judged her or shamed her in any way.  She said, "of course not, but then you're not...are you?"  When I revealed that I am, indeed, a virgin, she was stunned. She said, "but...you're, like, cool. You don't make me feel bad about myself."

Plain and simple:  My choice is not for everyone; it is not perfect; it is not without disappointment.  I would never dare judge someone for their choices simply because they are different from my own.  Everyone chooses their own path.

My choice to stay a virgin until love finds me is simply an option, nothing more, nothing less.  It's an option that is barely discussed anymore today.  There are so many young girls going through high school hell, struggling with when and if to have sex.  My hope with this blog is to enlighten people on who virgins truly are, what living this choice is all about, and maybe even reversing some of the stereotypes.

So, I suppose it comes down to this: I have spent my life being judged for my choice. Why on earth would I judge anyone else for theirs?

Stereotype #2: SLAYED (I hope).

Stereotype #1: Virgins Are Prudes

One of the benefits of being an undercover virgin in daily life is the ability to ask opinions on virgins, especially those of men. If men knew I was a virgin, then I'd get the canned response: “That's cool and I really respect you.” Translation: “That's cool and I really respect you...but I'm running the other way as fast as my three legs will take me, preferably toward the drunk blonde with ginormous boobs in the corner of the bar.” Yes, this is based in reality, folks. The other canned response? “You are the marrying kind.” Translation: “You are the marrying kind, but I'm nowhere near ready for the marrying kind...and I need to hookup tonight.” UGH. If I have to hear that ONE MORE TIME... I suppose it's a compliment, but, dang, I'll be in my friggin' 60s before men my age will be ready to come looking for “the marrying kind.” Ridiculous.

Now, time to slay the first stereotype: Virgins are prudes. This is probably one of the most common stereotypes I've heard from people, especially men. The most common definition of prude, according to the free online dictionary, is: “a person who has an excessively modest, prim, and proper attitude, especially regarding sex.”

When I have asked men for their definition of “prude,” they always say the same thing: “A girl who is really shy about anything regarding sex, whether it's joking about it or whatever. They don't even like heavy kissing and get all upset if you make sex jokes or compliment them on their assets. Basically, you can't even imply sex around them.”

Well, I'm here to say that this is unequivocally FALSE!!!!

I am a modest person, but I am NOT, repeat, NOT prude. I don't get my feathers ruffled when I hear a sexual joke; I usually laugh (if I get it—sometimes it flies right by me, which usually brings one heck of a laugh)...and, yes, I might blush...but I certainly don't get offended. If I get a compliment on any of my assets—or, heaven help me, a whistle—trust me, I'm a happy girl. And where on earth did men get the impression that virgins don't want to kiss? That has to be the most ridiculous thing I've heard...well, actually, it's not, but it's definitely high on the list of stupid assumptions.

Oh, and for the record, if a man could take a little journey through the mind of a virgin, I dare say he would never be the same. ;)

Stereotype #1—SLAYED.