Ah, yes, the judgmental virgin. I can't tell you how often I have heard this during my undercover virgin investigations. I find the judgmental stereotype is more prevalent among women than men...and it is one of the most hurtful.
So how are virgins judgmental? According to what I have heard, virgins look down upon those who have sex; they allegedly "shame" sexually active women. When a friend of mine said precisely this, I asked her if I have ever judged her or shamed her in any way. She said, "of course not, but then you're not...are you?" When I revealed that I am, indeed, a virgin, she was stunned. She said, "but...you're, like, cool. You don't make me feel bad about myself."
Plain and simple: My choice is not for everyone; it is not perfect; it is not without disappointment. I would never dare judge someone for their choices simply because they are different from my own. Everyone chooses their own path.
My choice to stay a virgin until love finds me is simply an option, nothing more, nothing less. It's an option that is barely discussed anymore today. There are so many young girls going through high school hell, struggling with when and if to have sex. My hope with this blog is to enlighten people on who virgins truly are, what living this choice is all about, and maybe even reversing some of the stereotypes.
So, I suppose it comes down to this: I have spent my life being judged for my choice. Why on earth would I judge anyone else for theirs?
Stereotype #2: SLAYED (I hope).