Thursday, July 8, 2010

Stereotype #1: Virgins Are Prudes

One of the benefits of being an undercover virgin in daily life is the ability to ask opinions on virgins, especially those of men. If men knew I was a virgin, then I'd get the canned response: “That's cool and I really respect you.” Translation: “That's cool and I really respect you...but I'm running the other way as fast as my three legs will take me, preferably toward the drunk blonde with ginormous boobs in the corner of the bar.” Yes, this is based in reality, folks. The other canned response? “You are the marrying kind.” Translation: “You are the marrying kind, but I'm nowhere near ready for the marrying kind...and I need to hookup tonight.” UGH. If I have to hear that ONE MORE TIME... I suppose it's a compliment, but, dang, I'll be in my friggin' 60s before men my age will be ready to come looking for “the marrying kind.” Ridiculous.

Now, time to slay the first stereotype: Virgins are prudes. This is probably one of the most common stereotypes I've heard from people, especially men. The most common definition of prude, according to the free online dictionary, is: “a person who has an excessively modest, prim, and proper attitude, especially regarding sex.”

When I have asked men for their definition of “prude,” they always say the same thing: “A girl who is really shy about anything regarding sex, whether it's joking about it or whatever. They don't even like heavy kissing and get all upset if you make sex jokes or compliment them on their assets. Basically, you can't even imply sex around them.”

Well, I'm here to say that this is unequivocally FALSE!!!!

I am a modest person, but I am NOT, repeat, NOT prude. I don't get my feathers ruffled when I hear a sexual joke; I usually laugh (if I get it—sometimes it flies right by me, which usually brings one heck of a laugh)...and, yes, I might blush...but I certainly don't get offended. If I get a compliment on any of my assets—or, heaven help me, a whistle—trust me, I'm a happy girl. And where on earth did men get the impression that virgins don't want to kiss? That has to be the most ridiculous thing I've heard...well, actually, it's not, but it's definitely high on the list of stupid assumptions.

Oh, and for the record, if a man could take a little journey through the mind of a virgin, I dare say he would never be the same. ;)

Stereotype #1—SLAYED.


  1. Nice.

    I've never thought virgins were prudes for the record :)

  2. Thank you, and thank you for not thinking virgins are prudes--you may be one of the only ones. :) It's one of the more frustrating stereotypes to have to overcome.

  3. Thanks for slaying that one. Tough one indeed...
    If I ever hear "you deserve so much better" again, probably meaning something close to your "you're the marrying kind" observation, I think I will wring the neck of the guy who says it.

  4. Is this stereotype slaying based more on your personality or is also based on other people? I mean, you seem to generalize. Do you refer to more or most virgins or solely to yourself?

  5. Just found this blog and love it! I am also a virgin and hate the "I respect you so much" response, which is usually followed by extreme amounts of sexual frustration.