I remember when an R&B CD fell out of my backpack one day in professional school. By the shocked looks on the guys' faces, you would have thought the world had just been pronounced square.
My male friends were stunned that I, little miss virgin, listened to what they called "porn music." Said "porn music" included songs like Freak Me, Bump 'N Grind, Stroke You Up, I'll Make Love to You, etc.
Shocked Guys: "You've got porn music!"
Me, blushing a little: "What's the big deal? It's R&B, it's sexy...what of it?"
Guys, eyes popping: "It just doesn't make sense."
Later, one guy told me--and a fellow virgin friend--that virgins "aren't supposed to like sexy stuff."
Cue mega eye rolling.
Virgins most certainly fall under such labels as pure, angelic, sweet, and innocent. I'm not arguing these labels, but there is so much more to a virgin than being sweet and innocent.
Here's a little list of some of the "sexy stuff" virgins are not supposed to like:
Sexy music--We don't cover our ears or turn the station...we turn it up, sing along, and fantasize. We then store our fantasies in a little mind vault and wait for the special him to unlock it.
Colorful undies--Virgins are believed to only wear single-style, white undies. Personally, I prefer color...and variation. That's all I'm sayin'.
Sexy movies/television shows, like True Blood--According to a number of men, virgins prefer PG films to R rated movies (no joke). Sigh. We don't cover our eyes during a love scene...we take mental notes.
Bottom Line: Sex and sexy are two different concepts. Sexy is a state of mind. You don't have to have sex to like sexy things. A virgin's mind is like the ocean--15% of which you may know, but the rest...the rest is a mystery waiting to be discovered.
Stereotype #15: SLAYED.