Monday, June 27, 2011

Share Mail: The Waiting Game

Hi! Do you ever get tired of waiting? And what advice would you give to young girls who want to wait for love, like you, but are having a tough time waiting?
Oh, I get tired of waiting all right! Like I’ve said before, this is not an easy choice, much like I’m not an easy lay. But, life isn’t about sitting around, moping about not having anyone in your life (though sometimes you may want to).  You have to keep moving. Life will catch up when the time is right. Strength is built from within.  Remember, you’re stronger than you realize. The most important thing is to do what’s right for you and never let anyone change that.

As far as coping with the waiting, I think you have to start with your mindset. Stereotypes would have you think virginity is some weird, abnormal thing you should be ashamed of.  Personally, I like to turn stereotypes on their head and suggest that virginity is not only pure, but sexy. You don’t have to have sex for someone to find you sexy.

I like to think of myself as undiscovered, uncharted territory.  We virgins just have to wait for our Christopher Columbus to uncover us.

You can’t compare where you are now to where you want to be in the future—you’ll go nowhere and likely drive yourself crazy in the process. It’s like treading water in the deep end, waiting for the bottom of the pool to touch your feet.  The best and only thing you can do is just go with the flow—ride the waves and see where life takes you.  Most of all, trust in yourself and believe in the seemingly unbelievable. 


  1. I wish I had a trick for the waiting. I waited until I was married to do the deed and I can tell you it was worth it. I think back at the guys I 'could' have had sex with, and I can't really even fathom how I would have dealt with it. It's (at least for me) such an intense emotional connection, that I don't WANT to be connect that way to anyone other than the husband. You'll make it!
    RYC-the lemonade has NO alcohol in it! You can put it in there if you want to though..but I didn't.
    HBO was free over the weekend, so I got the premiere, but I haven't watch it yet..and I haven't finished Season 3 yet...I'm so behind!!

  2. You know I just thought of something - what happens when you find that special guy? The whole premise of your blog will be ruined! You'll have to call yourself something else. Something catchy. Bob?

  3. What great advice...again I have to say how proud I am of you that you have created a place where people feel comfortable and can relate to you and want to go to you for help. I adore you!

  4. Suzanne: That was really beautiful advice, thank you. *Hugs* I believe.

    Ah! Okay, no alcohol in it! Well, then, I'm totally there with that recipe!!!

    Season 3 ended really strong, I think. So far, Season 4 has started off really, really fast--lots going on!!!

    OT: Thanks, OT, that really means a lot. *Hugs*

    Drake: LOL-Don't think it will be Bob, unless that's the hypothetical special someone's name...then maybe. ;) Well, since that special man doesn't seem to be anywhere around right now, I reckon I won't have to worry about it for a while. lol

    Jewels: Aww, how much do I adore you?! ***THIS MUCH*** (that's supposed to mean lots and lots lol).

    Tracy: :) Thank you! *Hugs*

  5. I liked this. It seems very reassuring. (Except that I worry about sharks every day so the ocean analogy would not have worked for me.)

    I don't see how anyone has a hard time waiting. Peer pressure, I guess. I never worried too much about waiting or not waiting. I always knew that when I was with the right person and I was ready, I'd know without a doubt and I wouldn't be scared or worried. And that's exactly how I handled it. The relationship didn't last, of course, like most relationships don't, but I have no regrets.

  6. great advice! there's nothing wrong with waiting if it's what you choose.

  7. Chanel: Thank you. :) I think the waiting becomes especially difficult when it seems everyone around you has found someone--like you said, that goes to peer pressure.

    Aubree: Thank you so much! There really isn't anything wrong with waiting.

  8. Excellent advice, Frisky! I don't know what you do in reality (besides blog), but you'd make a great counselor. :o)

  9. I love love LOVE this!!!! LOVE It! You are my hero!

  10. Wise young thing you Frisky Virgin!

  11. Something tells me the delights of your body will never be sweeter than when first sampled, Miss Virgin. I hope the lucky fella deserves it!

  12. J. Day: You are so sweet, thank you. *Hugs*

    Rita: Thank you so much! YOU are MY hero! *Hugs*

    Carole: :) I appreciate that very much. *Hugs*

    GB: *Blushes* You are a sweetheart! Thank you! *more blushes--the good kind* Hugs